The Charming Narcissist

Stop the Narcissist

It is hard to believe how well a Narcissist or Sociopath can fool people. It happened to me and several others. The woman was amazing. Funny, smart and really pretty. Each one of us thought we had found our best friend. Individually she groomed us. Made us feel special and important. The thing with a really good narcissistic sociopath is that they have an innate ability to hone in on what is important to you. They cannot feel and need someone to feed off. All they do in reality is put a mirror up and become that mirror image. Do you like her? Well hell yea because she has become you. She knows what is important, what makes you tick. She has spent a lifetime reading peoples emotions so she can mimic them. That is because she doesn’t have any of her own.
It is amazing how good they are at getting into your head. As time goes on you become comfortable. After all she is your best friend. You can tell her anything. This can be even more dangerous on social networks where you don’t get physical cues. They are able to create personalities. Before you know it you have told them your whole life story.
This is when it gets tricky you see they now have a loaded gun and you have supplied the bullets. They will manipulate you into doing things that perhaps you would not have thought of doing ordinarily. It is done slowly and expertly. Creeping into your mind. Now that they have you they will use you. They use you for their own entertainment. Gas lighting and changing the rules. Accusing you of doing things that astound you. This is how they get their emotions they feed off yours as you get upset by their accusations. Remember the bullets? Well now they use them. The secrets you told them are their weapons and they have no compunction about plastering them everywhere and twisting them.
Mine accused me of madness because I shared with her my mothers bipolar illness. The lies that came out were amazing. I am not the only one that this happened to. After a while I started talking to her other victims. It was a pattern. We banded together to stop her and we did. She cannot do her tricks as there are too many watching and warning.
The moral of this story is don’t share things that you don’t want to become public or that could be twisted with people you really don’t know. Social media gives these sociopaths masks to hide behind. Don’t be a victim. If a person in real life is too friendly too fast question why. Friendship is a thing that takes time and trust. It isn’t instant. I am lucky I got real friends from this experience. Others aren’t so lucky.

By Gale A. Molinari

Sharing my views on just about everything that enters my mind. Fasten your seatbelts it is going to be a bumpy ride. I am just a lady of a certain age somewhere between the dinosaurs and stalactites. Musing over lessons learned and sharing those with others. I really am interested in your views on what I write so fire away and thank you for taking the time to check out my blog. this is my poetry blog perhaps you would enjoy that too!!


  1. my cousin let me move in with him and my brother. their relationship was strained. while living there, my cousin seemed so charming and understanding; we had very deep conversations. he would also bring up arguments he had had with my brother, making him seem crazy and irrational. i grew up with my brother, so i could understand some of the stories. but then there were others that were too hard to believe.
    before my brother moved out, he told me to watch out, that my cousin would start to use his little tricks on me that he had used on him. i didn’t believe it would happen. but sure enough, after my brother moved, slowly my cousin started in on me. after 5 years, i felt insane. nothing i said was right; nothing i did was done properly; i couldn’t go through a day without him making me feel more and more crazy.
    it has been 2 months since i moved out. i left the dark cloud and found sunshine.

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    1. I am glad you escaped they really can make you feel like you have gone mad. When you try to warn others you end up attacked. I would never had believed that this person I really considered a dear friend had that side of her. It was a pattern.


  2. Sorry you had to go through that, but I’m also glad to read an article on naricissistic friendship. Most of the material I’ve seen focuses on romantic or family relationships, but toxic friendships can affect us as well.

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    1. These relationships can take any form. These become toxic because there is no respect or empathy. The victim is simply a matter of entertainment for the narcissist or sociopath. A way to have feelings that they are not born with.

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